After you’ve done a thing the same way over two years, look it over carefully. After five years, look at it with suspicion. And after ten years, throw it away and start all over. –  Alfred Perlman

End of year is usually when people get introspective. Take advantage of that reflection and ask the big question Perlman implies. What do you need to throw away and start all over?

This might be difficult to admit – it could be a relationship you’ve outgrown. It could a belief that is preventing you from making a change or taking a chance. It could be a habit that you do by default.

Make a list of any areas you’d like to improve. Try to think of at least 5 alternatives to take in each area.

Don’t assume you need to more of the same thing.


Time has a wonderful way of weeding out the trivial. Richard Sapit

We’re almost at the end of another year. What did you spend it on?

Did you worry about things that didn’t happen?

Did you complain about slights that no longer matter or problems that worked themselves out?

What do you want to carry over into next year?

What do you want to discard?



Barbara Sher on Now

December 3, 2014

“Now” is the operative word. Everything you put in your way is just a method of putting off the hour when you could actually be doing your dream. You don’t need endless time and perfect conditions. Do it now. Do it today. Do it for twenty minutes and watch your heart start beating. - Barbara Sher What […]

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Dave Barry On Potential

November 26, 2014

If you had to identify, in one word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be:  “meetings.  – Dave Barry If you didn’t laugh out loud at this quote, then check your pulse. Even if you didn’t think it was LOL funny as […]

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William Feather On Happiness

November 19, 2014

Some people are making such thorough plans for rainy days that they aren’t enjoying today’s sunshine. — William Feather I’m very guilty of this one, as I am a worrier. (I also harbor grudges so if I’m not worrying about the future, I’m stewing about the past!). Are you so focused on problems that you […]

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Christopher Reeve On Possibility

November 12, 2014

So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable. – Christopher Reeve  This is so true of big goals. Graduation seems daunting to a child, but we’ve done it multiple times – elementary school, middle school, high school, college, and […]

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Edith Wharton On Happiness

November 5, 2014

If only we’d stop trying to be happy we’d have a pretty good time –  Edith Wharton Less striving, more celebrating. Less effort, more enjoyment. How can you have fun right now?

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Ben Stein On Achievement

October 29, 2014

The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this; decide what you want. – Ben Stein One exercise I give all of my clients when deciding on the ideal next job is to make a list of everything they want. This typically numbers in the dozens – salary, bonus, […]

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Ralph Waldo Emerson On Obstacles

October 22, 2014

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine. – Ralph Waldo Emerson  One of my favorite scenes in the sitcom, Seinfeld, is when perennial loser George commits out loud to Jerry that he will change his life, do what he really wants, get on the path of […]

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Henry David Thoreau On Change

October 15, 2014

Things do not change: we change. – Henry David Thoreau  What is bothering you? In what areas of your life are you hoping that something or someone else will change? You have a role in this tension. If your workplace should be more collegial, you can start by being a better team player, becoming more […]

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