William Feather On Happiness

November 19, 2014

Some people are making such thorough plans for rainy days that they aren’t enjoying today’s sunshine. — William Feather

I’m very guilty of this one, as I am a worrier. (I also harbor grudges so if I’m not worrying about the future, I’m stewing about the past!).

Are you so focused on problems that you can’t see solutions, opportunities, or lucky breaks? If you find yourself focusing on what you cannot do, ask yourself, “How can I…?”

Are you spending more time planning for contingencies than preparing for success? You want to play offense, as well as defense. Assume that the project goes well – now reverse engineer what you did.

Are you always planning for the future or lamenting the past that you are not fully experiencing the present? I have found that improvisational theater keeps me in the moment because it requires a high degree of listening. Find a pursuit outside your day-to-day that forces you to exercise different skills.


So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable. – Christopher Reeve 

This is so true of big goals. Graduation seems daunting to a child, but we’ve done it multiple times – elementary school, middle school, high school, college, and beyond. It is impossible and then inevitable. Saving money sometimes seems futile till you check your account balance years later and realize that the drip savings have become significant. I just celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary – in high school, when we met, I still remember wondering if we’d ever start dating!

What would you do if you believed your goals were not impossible, but inevitable? What would you start? Start this now.


Edith Wharton On Happiness

November 5, 2014

If only we’d stop trying to be happy we’d have a pretty good time –  Edith Wharton Less striving, more celebrating. Less effort, more enjoyment. How can you have fun right now?

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Ben Stein On Achievement

October 29, 2014

The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this; decide what you want. – Ben Stein One exercise I give all of my clients when deciding on the ideal next job is to make a list of everything they want. This typically numbers in the dozens – salary, bonus, […]

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Ralph Waldo Emerson On Obstacles

October 22, 2014

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine. – Ralph Waldo Emerson  One of my favorite scenes in the sitcom, Seinfeld, is when perennial loser George commits out loud to Jerry that he will change his life, do what he really wants, get on the path of […]

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Henry David Thoreau On Change

October 15, 2014

Things do not change: we change. – Henry David Thoreau  What is bothering you? In what areas of your life are you hoping that something or someone else will change? You have a role in this tension. If your workplace should be more collegial, you can start by being a better team player, becoming more […]

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Louis CK on Boredom

October 8, 2014

“I’m bored” is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless, it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say “I’m […]

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Jerry Seinfeld on Growth

October 1, 2014

To me, if life boils down to one thing, it’s movement. To live is to keep moving. – Jerry Seinfeld Are you moving or in a rut? What is one small change you can make to your routine – even a different route to work, a different go-to meal for breakfast, a 10-minute refresh of […]

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Lucille Ball on Self-Love

September 24, 2014

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world – Lucille Ball The first step of any goal is believing you can do it and you deserve it. If you don’t have that confidence, can you move forward anyway and let your […]

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Lily Tomlin on Slowing Down

September 17, 2014

For fast-acting relief, try slowing down – Lily Tomlin Such an excellent reminder not to be so harried! We all know that person who exudes a sense of calm, that grace under pressure. And we all like to be around that person! From a professional standpoint, executive presence requires that you don’t rush around. To […]

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